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How to Save Your Marriage or Relationship from Divorce or Break Up Using NLP Part 1
http://www.nlpresults.com In this video I’m going to show you something extremely important if you are currently in a relationship that ‘s having some challenges and especially if your relationship is in danger of ending because of conflicts and negative emotions. This video is about saving your relationship and if you are determined to save your marriage or relationship you will find the steps needed to make that happen.
One of the most powerful and effective means for creating the positive transformation that we all desire is through Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP . You may have seen relationship success training programs from NLP masters such as Anthony Robbins or Tad James.
So let’s look at how this can help you to save your marriage or relationship.
One really amazing principle that plays a big role in helping you to save your relationship and create a lasting happy and fulfilling life with the one you love is what’s called “anchoring”.
So what is anchoring and how does it work? Why does anchoring work so amazingly and powerfully to help people make positive changes?
Have you ever heard an old song that was popular when you were in high school and suddenly you feel an emotion that you were feeling at the time it was popular? That’s because the emotions you were feeling at that time were anchored into your nervous system with the repetition of hearing that song.
Have you ever walked by a bakery or a coffee shop and smelled the aroma of fresh bread baking or fine coffee brewing and suddenly some old emotion from the past pops up? If you worked in a bakery, or lived by one and smelled the same smell over and over while experiencing a certain emotion that emotion will suddenly arise if you smell that aroma later.
In NLP there is a technique where a person can experience a certain emotion and then touch a certain part of the body in a specific way. Let’s say if you do something that causes you to experience the peak of happiness, a certain piece of music, a certain warm feeling of laughter with family, something really positive. Then each time you have that feeling you touch the inside of your left elbow with your thumb.
After that has been repeated with the same touch wile experiencing the same peak of emotion many times you can then just touch yourself on the inside of your elbow and feel the instant happiness.
Well the applications for the technique of anchoring in NLP are diverse and you can see that this can be a very powerful and effective technique for positive change and transformation.
Unfortunately anchoring can also work in a negative way and we are anchoring emotions and beliefs throughout our lives unconsciously and unintentionally. NLP is a way to take more deliberate control of how phenomena like anchoring create the results in our lives.
Here’s what sometimes happens in a relationship:
Let’s say a conflict arises with your partner. There is a misunderstanding or disagreement. It escalates into an argument or even a bitter fight in which you feel strong emotions of anger, sadness or painful emotions. Then somehow you resolve the problem and move on and everything is fine.
Later the same thing happens again. It might even be the same kind of pattern or conflict. The anger is strong and you feel it in your entire nervous system.
Maybe it starts to happen on a regular basis sometimes for no reason. The same pattern keeps happening. Feel anger see your partner, feel anger see your parter etc. on and on.
Now the ugly painful feelings are stored in your entire nervous system anchored there so that you simply see your partner and feel anger. Or the slightest thing can trigger it for no reason and you are instantly right back in the intense negative feelings of anger.
You have anchored it and it’s a pattern.
When this happens you are in a terrible and dangerous situation. It’s extremely tragic and you must do something to change this pattern because you already know that doing the same thing will get the same results. You MUST do something different and learn to heal this problem and transform your relationship into one that feels happy, loving, joyous and fulfilling.
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How to Save Your Marriage or Relationship from Divorce or Break Up Using NLP Part 2
Step 1 of how to save your marriage or relationship is what is called a pattern interrupt . You are already aware of the results of the old pattern. If you get angry the result will be that you will break up. If you say hurtful things it will confirm to your partner that you definitely should break up. If you ignore your partner and every single time that causes you to break up then you already know what the result will be every time you do that. Whatever it is that you have been doing that triggers the conflict and what happens after you slip back into anger always makes it worse. Keep doing the same thing and you get the same results. Now you must make a conscious effort to begin to INTERRUPT that pattern. Do something different! Anthony Robbins sometimes illustrates that doing something totally wacky will interrupt the pattern. Jump up and down and say “Yes, I feel good! I feel happy. Life is so wonderful. I appreciate my partner.” Relax breathe deep do some yoga or exercise to release the negative emotions. If you keep storing them in your body they will still be there and keep coming back.
2. Collapse the old anchor.
In NLP there is a technique that is used to collapse a negative anchor or one that is no longer needed. To begin, think about what most attracts you to your partner. Maybe it’s sparkle of his or her eyes. The shape of the body, the hair, the way the person talks, the person’s honest character, the sincerity, the intelligence, the wit and sense of humor. Maybe it’s the way the person makes you laugh, the way the person makes you feel good. Think of all the things you love about your partner and see them, hear them, feel them, smell and taste them.
In the left hand think of all the things that you dislike about the person and let them also take form in great detail. Then take the feelings in the right hand and pour them into the left making a sound of “shhhhhhhhh”. Let the positive feelings overcome the negative until the two hands both feel the same and they are both containing the positive feelings about your partner. This will collapse the anchor of negative feelings that is being triggered automatically and unconsciously.
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Counseling, Psychotherapy, Family Therapy, Fort Lauderdale FL – 33309
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Marriage 10: Divorce ande Remarriage
This is a course of 10 classes on marriage counseling. This last class discusses God's word concerning divorce and remarriage. More courses on Christian counseling are avaiable on www.freechristiancounselingtraining.com and www.faiththerapy.org.
Duration : 39 min 32 sec